Is Your Cat’s Separation Anxiety Ruining Their Life and Yours?

It’s tough to leave your cat home alone. It’s even harder if your cat ruins the furniture and makes a mess outside the litter box while you’re gone. If those behaviours stop when you’re back, your cat might have separation anxiety, says Stephen Quandt, a certified cat behaviour specialist and owner of Cat Behavior Help. As with separation anxiety in dogs, losing a family member or experiencing changes in routine or surroundings are a few things that can worsen anxiety symptoms in cats. Here’s how to spot and treat your cat’s separation anxiety, according to Quandt.

What is separation anxiety?

Separation anxiety is when pets – cats or dogs – become distressed and anxious when separated from their pet parents. Quandt says separation anxiety isn’t exactly loneliness, but rather an over-dependence on caretakers.

“It’s hard to know exactly what cats feel when they have anxiety because they can’t talk to us with words. However, they do talk to us with behaviour and body language. This helps us infer that our cats are feeling poorly and are in some degree of distress,” says Quandt.

What are signs of separation anxiety in cats?

Separation anxiety can look a lot like other medical conditions. That’s why Quandt says to visit your veterinarian if your cat exhibits any of these signs:

• Over-vocalising 

• Pacing

• Over-grooming

• Loss of appetite

• Destructive behaviour (for example, aggression and furniture scratching)

• Pooing or peeing outside the litter box

• Low energy or depression

A cat who is showing one or more of these behaviours all the time (even when you’re home) may have a medical condition rather than an emotional one, Quandt adds.

You may also see a similar behaviour in bored cats. “If the cat’s negative behaviours occur in the pet parent’s presence, behaviours like meowing, scratching objects and attention-begging are examples that the cat is likely bored,” says Quandt. In comparison, negative behaviours associated with separation anxiety happen when you’re away and are due to distress.

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What causes separation anxiety in cats?

Quandt says separation anxiety may be a natural trait in cats with various personalities. But cats who form strong attachments to their humans are more likely to experience separation anxiety, such as a single bottle-fed kitten. Therefore, separation anxiety could stem from genetics, life experiences or a combination of the two.

Any of these below factors could trigger separation anxiety.

Being left alone

Cats vary in how long they can cope alone or with a sitter. Some cats get stressed after an hour, a day, or days. In one rare case, Quandt recalls a cat who marked doorways any time their parent left the room.

The death of a family member

We can’t be sure that cats understand the concept of death, but they recognise and respond to the absence of another person or pet. Because cats can pick up on our moods, separation anxiety in cats can worsen when their pet parent grieves the same person or pet.

Moving

Moving can be a stressful time for people, but it’s especially difficult for cats who rely on familiar places and smells to feel secure. As a result, a cat in a new home might become more reliant on human family members’ company.

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A change in routine

Cats love their daily routines just as much as familiar places and faces. This means sticking to a typical routine as much as you can.

Breed

Siamese and Burmese cats are more prone to separation anxiety than other cats. “This could be the result of their tendencies to be more codependent on their humans than other breeds,” says Quandt.

Age

As pets get older, they may experience hearing or vision loss, or develop senior cat health issues such as kidney disease or cognitive dysfunction, which is like Alzheimer’s in humans. Any of these conditions can make it harder for a cat to cope with changes in routine or time away from their humans.

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How can you help your cat with their separation anxiety?

To help your cat keep their cool while you’re away, you can try desensitisation training. To do this, gradually increase the time your cat spends alone, starting with short sessions that don’t upset your cat. Consider using the following tips to make solo time more enjoyable for cats.

Ghost your cat

“The number one mistake people make with all the best of intentions is smothering their cat with attention just before they leave the home. As a result, your absence is felt much more intensely,” says Quandt. Avoid rattling keys, making a big fuss saying goodbye, or rushing around to collect your things. Leave gently. Kiss and cuddle your cat once you’re back home, he suggests.

Keep them entertained

Quandt says adding enriching elements to a cat’s life can reduce stress. This includes food puzzles, bird videos, scratching posts and perches. Cat trees and cosy ‘igloo’ beds, preferably with some used clothing of the pet parent, can also be beneficial because cats express status with height and feel secure in enclosed spaces.

Create a chill environment

Did you know there’s music just for soothing cats? It’s called species-appropriate music and it’s composed of purrs, suckling and other friendly sounds used in cat-to-cat communication. That, paired with pheromones mimicking a cat’s natural communication scents, can help your kitty chill, Quandt says. “Before administering anything orally to your cat like calming treats, liquids or CBD products, check with your vet first,” he adds. (In the UK, CBD products must.)

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Hire a sitter

You can find good pet sitters on apps such as Rover, Cat in a Flat and Pawshake. They’ll accommodate your and your cat’s needs by stopping in for short visits or staying at your home while you’re away.

Will getting another pet help my cat’s separation anxiety?

Not necessarily, Quandt says. Your cat doesn’t really miss you because they’re lonely. They’re missing you because they’re too attached to you or someone else who takes care of them. Another pet could make your cat more stressed and act out even more. This could work for some cats, but it’s not the solution for every household.